As Salaamu Alaikum
The importance of engaging with your children
How often do you spend engaging with your children?
Do you know what engaging means?
Many people think that they are engaging with their children by putting the tv on whilst the parents are cooking, or on their laptops etc…
Engagement means to interact, teach, develop your children. How?
If you are cooking, why are you not engaging your children to help you, this way they learn how to cook, they are spending quality time with you and are developing life skills.
The teaching of the Prophet (SAW) was to interact and engage with our children and not to keep them idle in front of screen based innovations. When we were young we did not have any of these technologies and we survived, so why is it a must now to have such technological devices to baby sit our children.
Remember, our job is to nurture, teach and educate the next generation to become ideal Muslims. We can only do this by interacting and engaging with our children at all times.
Some practical steps for you to take with your children:
- When you are hoovering the house, play a game with your children and tell them to act as a crane moving all the big stuff out the way so the hoover can easily clean up.
- When you are cooking, give your children something to do as part of the process, for e.g. mixing the salad, squashing the potatoes for mash etc… If there is no task to do, be creative and make something up.
- When you are ironing, ask them to fold, or pass you the clothes.
These type of activities will build a conversation and bond between you and your child. If your child gets bored too quick, you must plan a curriculum the way they do it in schools, to ensure they are always busy and learning. Remember, these kids are entrusted on you by Allah and you must answer to him, so you MUST exhaust all efforts to ensure there are rightly guided. If you are struggling to set a plan, then seek advice, you are more than welcome to come to any of our Islamic weekend schools and speak to any member of staff and I am sure they will be more than happy to assist.
You can also find brief outlines of the curriculum on our site, however, it is at very early stages but we do update regularly, you are more than welcome to use any of our resources.
This advice is not just for Quran, or English, it is for everything. Your children must be excited to come home to interact with their parents and trust me you will also equally enjoy it, if not more. The art to this ideal way of living is:
- Firstly, ask Allah
- And PLAN, PLAN, PLAN
Once you know what you are doing then it will come naturally to you.
What I want you to do this week is to, make a list of activities (or chores) that you do on a weekly basis. Then, next to each chore write how you can merge a child friendly activity. The best way I find doing this is through a brainstorm, may be even do it with your kids, they will love it. (Engage them). During the week I will upload a sample brainstorm to give you an idea. Insha Allah.
If you have any queries or need any advice feel free to contact us anytime, we are here to help. Insha Allah
May Allah give us the opportunity to fulfill our roles and engage with Allah and our children. Ameen